Thursday, January 15, 2009

friends....(kno the keepers)

There has been alot of debates amongst different people, and that debate is who do we call friends? and, are those loyal?...The thing is someone would be lying thru their teeth if they were to say ' they have never at one point been the least disloyal to there closest friends'. Perhaps this disloyalty did not come outright maybe it was mental or simply unconscious, point is it did happen. I do not expect 100% from anyone because i do not see perfection in myself much less for me to ask it of others. Many people are quick to point using the judgmental finger, although many of us could be standing in the very same accusing box. ADMIT IT ya fucked up sometime. Point is being a friend is subjective, that is that this friendship thing is determined by personal views. From what i know/ have learnt is that a person finds out who their tru friends are during the most difficult times. For instance i could name a few people that would perhaps delete me from there 'hi' list if i got put in jail or maybe got pregnant before i as old enough.
So about being loyal...i think a loyal friend is one that :(well SOME what i look for)
-calls me out when i am wrong. Sometimes criticism can be healthy.
-Can look past petty issues and be my friend
-Will allow forgiveness when i mess up as i would to them (no one is perfect...the Australian crocodile guy proved that!)
-Knows which aspects of my personal life is really too sensitive for 'public knowledge'
- drops me a freckin email every once in a while
- assertive
-ambitious (would be best if they are loser ppl kill ur positive vibes)
These are just little things... my point is that do not be very quick to throw people out of the 'friend' box. Especially for halfassed reasons. ESPECAILLY GIRLS notice that guys dont ditch there friends and their regular 'bros b4 hoes' concept, i think women shud follow the same rules. That is a really big issue! Not knowing the line between a realtionship and friendship. While a significant other mite make u happy do not, DONOT think u can ditch out ur friends for them because they come and go. (kind cliche i kno) But i have seen goodfriends go thru many of their goodfriends because of one guy....and then that guy disappears and still has his friends and the girl.....nope no friends ne where to be found. There are those friends that wud have ur back even when u crwal back but honestly...they are obligated to do that ( so wipe the smile off ur face). The best thing about a rainbow is the varitey of colours...think fo ur friends as colours and if u erase them for just one colour its not a very pretty site is it?There is a reason hy varitey is beautiful. I AM NOT saying that u need to ditch ur realtionship but live a well balanced life. Everyone needs to work on it but im just saying think about the things that are said to ur friends....try for once to see all the good things they have done for u and really ask ur self if one fuk up is really worth an entire friend. Yea..there are some rotten friends out there but please think carefully before point a finger to the ones u call friends.... this is just my opinion as i said its 'subjective'. I have good close friends and i kno i have and will mess up at some point. They will too but when it does happen think carefully and ask ur self honestly...have i not done that also? at some point to some other friend at some other time. Loyal or just loyal enough? loyal enough for me is fine... i wud find a person pretty frustrating if they never messed up at least once in a while ( at least make life intresting ) well this is my frist blog thingy maybe u have noticed i cant keep my mind in a striaght line... (maybe i shud b a philsopher lol ) but i will get better i promise :) i have about 4 drafts in my folder unfinished im new at this b nice :) tis is kinda unfinished to but my friend mesha will kill me if i do not frecking post :) <3




1 comment:

  1. Thank God I didnt have to kill you for not posting, I was mortified at the thought of actually losing you!

    You make some great points and I agree with you 100% especially when it comes to women and their petty issues.

    Lovesit!

    MORE!!

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